Best Represents them
What is the gender spectrum?
Let us walk through an example relating to demisexuality:
- Alex identifies as a man from a gender perspective and is 25-years-old. Before and after puberty, Alex quickly noticed that, unlike his friends and from what he saw in the media, he did not feel sexually attracted or aroused by people he met. Alex would often fantasise about celebrities and well-known personalities because Alex usually felt connected through their music or work. However, he had not had any close relationships or experienced sexual attraction towards anyone he had met in his everyday life. Shortly after his 26th birthday, Alex was introduced to Jay, who identifies as gay. The two quickly formed a friendship, and over months, the more time they spent together, the sooner Alex realised that he was becoming more attracted to Jay
In this example, the strong connection Alex was forming with Jay was creating a physical and sexual attraction. Before meeting Jay, Alex experienced more asexual characteristics and same-sex or gay sexual attractions after his new friendship.
Polysexual people are often referred to as bisexual or pansexual; however, they are unique in their own right, and distinct differences exist between the different groups.
- Polysexuality vs Bisexuality – Bisexual individuals are typically attracted to men and women. However, they may not feel attraction towards some within the gender spectrum. For example, a bisexual individual may not feel sexual attraction towards a transgender person, genderfluid or non-binary person. In contrast, polysexual individuals likely feel attraction towards many genders or sexes. The attraction may include those from within and outside of the gender spectrum
- Polysexuality vs Pansexuality – those identifying as pansexual are often grouped under the bisexual banner as pansexual people will typically be attracted towards a person rather than a gender. Pansexual people, unlike polysexual individuals, usually feel attraction towards those from more traditional gender identities, whereas polysexual individuals feel attraction both inside and outside of the gender spectrum
To summarise, Polysexuality from an attraction perspective is more fluid. The attraction can be from within and outside the gender spectrum, more so than any other group within the LGBTQIA+ community. For example, individuals attracted to women and transgender women could identify as polysexual under the classification of the term.
Unique to them
How a person identifies is unique to them. Even though they may see or liken their thinking or feelings towards a term or label, it does not necessarily mean they can identify 100%. Instead, it is often more about bringing together people with similar experiences, beliefs or feelings. Regardless of our personal views and opinions, respecting how a person chooses to live their lives and supporting their desire to live their true and authentic selves is crucial. Ultimately more things in life bring us together than keep us apart.
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