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LGBT: Caring for the elder community

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LGBT: Caring for the elder community

Over the years, many brave individuals have stood up, spoken out, and through their actions directly helped to improve the laws that impact the lives of so many LGBTQ+ community members worldwide. Many of these brave pioneers and advocates are now considered elderly, with some likely needing support or care in the later years of their lives. What does eldercare look like for them, and what are the potential obstacles that they might face?


Unfortunately, no one can escape the ageing process, with the reality that we will all have to succumb to needing help and assistance at some point in our lives. It is estimated that 9% of the world’s population is aged 65 or older, with many from within that age group from the baby boomer or lucky few generations. With medical advancements, slowing of the birth rate in certain countries and an increased life expectancy, people from within the over 65 age group, are now part of the fastest-growing group out of all age groups, with the number of people in that age bracket set to double by 2050. The people at retirement age and those requiring care have lived through an important period of history, which has directly impacted the lives of many from within the LGBTQ+ community. A series of events and period in time that sparked a global movement, which resulted in the amendments to the laws which directly improved many people’s rights across the globe. It is hard to imagine; that the majority of those brave individuals that took part in the Stonewall riots in 1969 are now considered elderly. Through their actions, the protestors became a catalyst for change and are now either in care or needing assistance. Waking up to the sad reality that though elderly care needs are universal, there are still unique challenges faced by many coming from within the LGBTQ+ community.

Existing Care Challenges
Even today, there are many problems and challenges relating to long-term care, with some extreme situations, which are hopefully more isolated cases. Even though improvements and greater oversight are required; many care companies provide their customers with a quality service, giving them all the respect and dignity, they rightly deserve. Though many of the challenges are universal, some care providers are better prepared and adept at handling them. Problems occur, no matter how good the care provider, so let us begin by looking at some of the shared care issues that everyone faces, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity.

Over the years, numerous investigative journalists have exposed problems and issues from within the care industry, many alarming cases where vulnerable people are forced to live in horrendous conditions, subjected to continual abuse, and grossly lacking services relating to individual care needs. Research carried out by the UK Charity, Age UK ( and the World Health Organisation – WHO ( highlights alarming themes and facts: -

  • Abuse - which can range from general neglect to sexual abuse. It is estimated that one in six people over the age of 60 has experienced abuse in the community setting during the past year (Age UK). The level and scale of abuse is also predicted to increase as countries around the world are seeing rapidly ageing communities
  • Exploitation – typically financial exploitation, praying on the vulnerable and inflating essential fees relating to care. It is estimated that in the UK alone, 2 million (16%) of those at retirement are living in poverty (DWP, 2019)
  • Isolation – lack of facilities and activities to get residents and elderly clients engaged and involved. It is estimated that 17% of older people are in contact with family, friends and neighbours less than once a week and 11% are receiving visitors less than once a month (Age UK, 2015)

The issues highlighted are just a small selection of those faced by the elderly, all of which affect everyone, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. The quality of the care provided is also usually dependent on the funding available, the availability of experienced staff within the local community, and the legal protections for the vulnerable within any given country. Governments around the world are lacking when it comes to eldercare and could be doing a lot more, as significant changes and improvements need to take place for all those needing help and assistance. Intervention is urgently required for those with little or no money available to fund a reasonable level of care and those alone and afraid to ask for help for fear of discrimination. From the research and studies readily available to the general public, two areas are consistently highlighted. The first relates to the need to implement greater oversight, and the second is to increase the protection for those most vulnerable, especially those alone or have little to no family to speak up for them.

LGBTQ+ Specific Challenges
The majority of those coming from within the LGBTQ+ community and currently receiving care will likely have been born before 1956. Born into a period of history in which communities and wider society were less accepting of their gender identity or sexual orientation. Though many fought hard for equal rights and legal protection, most will have to face difficult decisions later on in life. A choice whether to suffer discrimination or hide and suppress who they are, something they spent a lifetime coming to terms with and accepting. LGBTQ+ long-term care research is limited; however, many specialist charities are highlighting the challenges faced by the community. The specialist non-profit organisations are speaking up for and protecting the rights of those elderly LGBTQ+ community members; however, given the growing number of those needing care, there are still insufficient numbers of advocacy groups worldwide. Even though many great organisations exist, most focus on specific countries or areas, with very few national or even representing more than one country. From the available research, some key facts emerge: -

  • Many LGBT individuals would hide their gender identity or sexual orientation to receive the care they need
  • LGBT are more inclined to remain at home than enter residential care facilities for fear of exclusion, harassment and isolation
  • LGBT members are more likely to suffer some form of abuse or being financially exploited compared to their heterosexual peers

Those already receiving care or in need of assistance face an increased risk of neglect due to how they identify, often due to a caregivers’ own beliefs or views or the lack of family members checking in on their well-being. The concerns are highlighted in the research carried out by the UK Charity Age UK (, in which:

  • Having spent much of their early adult years in social, political, and medical environments in which homosexuality was illegal or considered a mental illness, some older LGBT adults conceal or avoid disclosing their sexual identity for fear of discrimination (CPA, 2016)
  • Although lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people are often grouped together, they are diverse and have varied and disparate needs (CPA, 2016)
  • LGBT people are known to face various barriers when accessing services; these can include discrimination, inappropriate questions, and curiosity. These barriers can prevent fair and equal treatment in health and social care settings (GOV UK, 2019)

Those elderly individuals in need of care, come from a period in which identifying as LGBT was difficult, even illegal. Most were faced with a tough decision that in many cases, resulted in individuals being disowned or ignored by those they loved or closest to them. Even against all those odds, these brave individuals decided to live their authentic lives. Only years later to be forced into either experiencing discrimination by remaining open or suppressing who they are to fit in. The decision is complicated and is one that no one should not have to make, a decision between getting the much need help and care versus the risk to their mental health and well-being.

Current and Future Developments
Over the years, several non-profit organisations have been advocating for elder community member rights, and as a result, there have been some positive developments. Groups and companies have come forward to look at the challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community, resulting in solutions that help those receiving care and assistance. Tailored solutions are being developed in the UK, as work is currently underway for the first LGBT housing association. Some solutions already exist, in the United States of America and parts of Europe, where there are a small number of dedicated LGBTQ+ residential homes, villages, and services. Anti-discrimination laws offer some protection; however, often, those most vulnerable will likely fear losing access to critical care and services rather than complaining or looking for alternatives. There is no one solution to fix all of the problems relating to elder care and tailored, exclusive facilities and services, though positive, will likely create different challenges and issues. Given the growing number of people in or close to retirement, the speed of bringing these types of solutions to the market is a significant challenge many providers face. LGBTQ+ tailored solutions will help; however, the reality is that more inclusive facilities and services are needed in the short term. Services and facilities that welcome all and have a clear code of conduct, which is enforced, that all will be treated with the same level of respect and given the same service and care, regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

Elderly care is not exclusively an LGBTQ+ community issue; however, different challenges and obstacles exist for those coming from within the community when seeking care and assistance. The level of care and range of services available will vary by country, and so will the attitudes towards care. Some countries rely on family members to become carers for their elderly relatives, which is not ideal for many within the LGBTQ+ community, especially those alone or with no family. Where no formal arrangements are in place, the situation will likely expose these vulnerable groups to financial exploitation or inadequate care and support. Governments need to address the ageing populations and future care requirements; however, existing care providers can today make simple changes to their business models to become more inclusive.

Eldercare is a problem and one that should concern everyone, regardless of age. The main challenge is primarily around, ensuring that everyone is treated with respect and receives quality care and assistance. We all should remember that someday in the future, we will likely need some form of support. When we need it most, the hope is, we too are treated with respect and receive the level of care, support, and assistance; regardless of our gender, how we identify, or our sexual orientation.

For any existing care providers or those businesses looking to develop care solutions, the Gayther article Inclusive Care: Tips for providing care for the elder LGBTQ+ community ( offers useful tips and advice.


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